“You never listen to me Maa and always force your decisions on me.”, my daughter Riti shouted at me. Both, Rahul (my husband) & I were really taken aback with her reaction. Rahul sensed the criticality of the situation and calmed Riti down. From quite some time, I had been trying to set up a sleeping schedule for my 12 year old daughter. For the first few days I used to switch off the lights and order her to go to bed by 9 o’clock. But when I checked again at 10 pm, I usually found her either with her headphone or reading a magazine. So I had got my husband to intervene and explain my expectation in a firm way.
After Riti settled, we made her understand why she needs to sleep early. She told us that she doesn’t feel sleepy at 9 pm and therefore demanded half an hour for reading comics and then she will sleep herself. We agreed and she promised to abide by this time table herself.
What I learnt from this is that children should not be forced and they should be taught in a democratic way where they have the right to voice their opinion. Only when they will express themselves completely, the way for an open communication and a healthy child parent relationship will be built.
It is very truly said “Democracy begins at home”. In the modern world, we all support and live by the principles of democracy but we are lacking in the real essence which is practicing it in our daily life in our family and at our homes. Democracy tends to work really fine for both the parents and the kids.
If you will keep dictating rules and regulations to your children without listening to them and their opinion, they will unnecessarily waste their time in finding out ways to break those rules and hide reality from you. It is said that sooner or later, dictators get overthrown so instead of ordering your kids to brush, to do their homework, go to bed etc. discuss, debate and argument with them so that the kids also feel empowered.
In today’s modern world it is very important to let the children think out loud so that they don’t feel neglected or unwanted. If the children have equal role to play in making the rules and regulations set up for them, then they are able to abide by them in a better way. Just like in a democracy, we listen to the representative who is selected by us similarly children will also listen to us if we will listen to them. It is all about equality.
So let your children voice their opinion, provide them equality and discuss things with them instead of ridiculing them, avoiding their reflection or deciding on their behalf. Saral Education helps Parents build a democratic atmosphere at home, creating a positive energetic environment where everyone feels respected and valued.
Democracy at home is the basic necessity for a happy and safe growing environment for youngsters.
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