A few days back my daughter was depressed over something and I could judge it but then I ignored it for some reason. Next day her sadness grew and she stopped talking to everybody in the house and was not even attending the phone calls from her friends. I realized that something is not right and I need to talk to her.
On much persuasion she told me that she failed in a test and because she was scared, she copied my signature and didn’t tell me and her teacher caught her. She was ashamed of this act and promised not to repeat it but that time I questioned my parenting and felt really bad. I promised myself that from now on I will understand her perspective and make her understand things instead of scolding her because this was just a signature but on the advices of friends, she might end up taking much bigger steps which might prove to be bad for her.
Parents have a very important role to play in the life of a child. Children are very emotional and at times they might have problems with their friends, family or school. Anxiousness, sadness and anger are common in children and that builds up the frustration. In a fit of rage, children often end up taking the wrong decisions, few of which they may not want to share with Parents.
We often try to make children understand the impacts and solutions to a problem with our assumptions. Counseling skills are based on listening and having meaningful conversations. Parents are the first individuals who teach a child everything right from their birth, so they can easily play the role of a counselor for their child. But that requires the parents to be open-minded and understand the situation from the children’s view point. They need to keep in mind today’s scenario and leave apart what they used to do when they were young.
A healthy child-parent relationship is of utmost importance today for the best growth of child into an adult. Children can be creative and dedicated and at the same time stubborn and self-absorbed which necessitates the need of open minded parents who can help guide them in the right direction. It is very important to listen to what your child wants and their opinions should matter. The children should feel wanted and loved.
Peers are all of the same age and they themselves don’t know what will be the consequences of the decisions made by them so it is important for the parents to be friendly and open minded with their children so as to give them the best advices and help them choose the best path to become successful in their life.
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