In the different stages of growth of your child, it is his pre-teen years that demand your maximum attention. Now your kid has stepped into the early adolescence, the next phase built on childhood experiences. This is an opening stage of adolescence where children begin to act like teenagers, proving hard for the parents to adjust as they suddenly see their child change. However, this unwelcome transformation is not as scary as it sounds. Actually, it is the testing time of a parent-child relationship as your pre-teen is struggling to be independent and to fit in at school, home, and with friends.
First of all, parents should understand that this behavioural change in their child is not the result of being a bad parent. It’s just that your children are in a stage that requires a lot of understanding, connection, communication, and self-control from your side and this is what will form the basis of their lifelong learning and growth.
Parenting pre-teens is a big challenge that comes up with its own frustrations. Even the most competent parents struggle with feeling emotionally distraught at this stage. However, if the parents of pre-teens can develop an understanding of this stage and learn to accept that their child is growing, they may be able to respond more effectively. For instance, setting appropriate limits for them, empathizing with them, initiating their effective learning, imbibing social skills and managing behaviour while respecting their aspirations can work wonders in their upbringing.
As a parent of a pre-teen, you just need to remember one thing: your growing child need lots of love. They are in a stage where they require a caring adult who can help in shaping their moral compass and support them during these difficult transitional years.
Since there’s no such thing as an instant adult, so the parents of pre-teens should keep these things in mind:
1. Talk to your growing children, listen to their ideas and opinions, and do things together
2. Know about your child’s friend circle as it will help you understand him even better
3. Make your child feel wanted, participate in his day to day activities and let him know that you are proud of his efforts, accomplishments as well as failures
4. Guide your pre-teen toward choices that are good for him
5. Set limits and let him know some limits are negotiable and others are not
6. Let him know the consequences of an unacceptable behaviour
7. Be honest and open with him
In this way, if you try to develop trust with your pre-teens you can offer them a safe place to rely on, thus, helping them to have a smooth preadolescence.
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